Excuses & Lies
Body language is key in being able to tell if someone is lying or being deceptive. Watching your partner's reactions when there sitting and relaxed and not distracted. Watch their arms and legs as you bring up the subject to confront them. Notice if the legs or arms are now crossed, this is a defensive position or a closed-off position in response to your questions. When asking a question, their response might be left-handed gestures of touching their face or scratching their head. Left-handed gestures are a sign of lying. Also, dry mouth and the licking of lips or swallowing a lot and sweating and being fidgety are all signs of nervousness. If your partners nervous maybe they have something to hide. If you confront your partner and your partner shows some of these signs while you ask your questions, your partner is being defensive and has something to hide.
"The eyes are the window to the soul"
Their eyes are also important to watch as when you ask a question if your partner looks to their left or up and to their left, this means they're looking for an answer and they're lying. if you ask your partner a question and your partner looks to their right or up and to the right, they're recalling the answer and they're being truthful. While you confront your partner with your questions and observe reactions, does your partner get upset and defensive and storm off leaving the conversation? if so, you know how the saying goes, "the guilty run".
Guilt is an emotion, as is; crying, laughter, anger, worry, sadness, etc. Some emotions are easier to read than others. Here's how guilty behaviour looks and how the guilt progresses.
Signs of guilt:
1) Avoids eye contact. (classic sign),( Lacking courage for eye contact, Their ashamed of what they've done, afraid to admit the truth)
2) Emotional imbalance. The guilty get emotional and angry (indicates the person's guilt.) Some people try to justify their mistake, a guilty person will often turn a confrontation into a big scene by blaming others for their behaviour.
Other people might have bigger egos than brains. This behaviour is seen by bosses, people in high rank and it is achieved by putting others down to lift themselves.
3) Body language can be a sign of guilt if the person is responding with the defensive body language described above.
4) Insomnia. Some guilty people might go through a mental fight trying to justify their behaviour. Restless and sleepless nights.
5) Loss of appetite. Some guilty people might lose their appetite from the stress of guilt.
6) Desperate for acceptance:
-The guilty person might do nice things for you, out of the blue and out of character, different behaviour for them. Compensating for their mistakes and doing nice things in hopes they feel better.
-The guilty will laugh at anything and even say lame jokes or comments, trying to be accepted.
-On social media, the guilty person might comment on every post and tag you. All this trying to get re-accepted.
Summary: The guilty person carries the burden of mistakes in the past and this burden makes that person anxious. When we carry the burden of guilt our minds and our hearts get restless. We lose our confidence and act nervous. Guided by fear, when someone does something wrong and they feel guilty about it, they tend to be frustrated or scared and are preoccupied about getting caught. The weight of the anxiety and fear takes its toll until they avoid you completely to try and free themselves of the guilt.
A polygraph is a great tool but a more expensive tool to use. finding a polygraph examiner in your area shouldn't be difficult and when you do you'll find their about $500. - $800. some can be as low as $350. and you keep to under 10 questions to ask the subject. (your partner)
If you just want to know if your partner has cheated on you while in the relationship with you, that doesn't take up much time and you might get the price down.
The first thing they will ask you are some control questions eg. name, age, etc and then they will ask you to lie on purpose so they can see the reading and now can tell between truth and a lie with the subject.
They can't ask the subject (your partner) if they love you as that's subjective. Only plain yes, no questions that are straight forward.
Did you or didn't you. Maybe your partner would agree to take the test just to put an end to this upset in your relationship.